You Deserve Someone Who Chooses You, No Matter What

Often times we doubt our self worth, but thats the worse thing you can do to yourself.  When you know what you are worth there are certain things you won't accept.  When you reach that threshold, you'll know you deserve somoen that chooses you no matter what.

7 Ways You Might Be Self Sabotaging Your Relationship

Maybe you don't even realize why, but you're suddenly cranky with your partner all the time. Or perhaps you had been really looking forward to the future together, but you're suddenly making excuses to push them away.

Many of us are guilty of self-sabotaging our relationships in this way.

How Long Should You Wait To Have Sex In A Relationship

How long should you wait to have sex? Nearly 50 percent of couples in a new survey reported holding out one week to a month before heading to bed with their partners.

What’s more, 21 percent of the couples waited up to two months and 10 percent waited up to half a year to have sex, according to the survey of 1,000 Americans and Europeans. Only 18 percent of those surveyed reported waiting less than a week to have sex.

That first time matters because sex is an incredibly vulnerable act, says relationship therapist Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D.

You Date At The Level Of Your Self Esteem


If you knew better you'd do better, and if you felt better you'd date better.  We date at the level of our self-esteem. Your relationship is a direct reflection of your own self-love and self-worth.

A lot of TDL Seekers have written in saying that they are in a relationship (dating, marriage, etc.) with someone who they really are into, but they are not getting their needs met. They keep asking me how they have to change to keep the relationship going.


7 Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make

Straight, Gay, LGBT We all want to have a great relationship but some of us just don’t know how to keep one. Here are some common mistakes Gay men make in relationships.

Out Rapper Le1f Shares Racist Messages He Received On Grindr

Shocker!  Another racist using Grindr!  Grindr seems like the go to app for racists and men of color who want to be abused by them.  Grindr also seems like the go to app for men of color who only go after white guys but thats another post. 

At any rate this is sad and shouldn't happen to anyone no matter who you want to date.