"My Bottom Will Not Pay Rent" Tops Says He Handles The Finances In His Relationship

In same gender loving relationships we often find ourselves falling into or fighting against heteronormative views and stances on relationships.  I remember a few years back talking to my straight friends about dating another guy and the first they would ask was "so who is the man in the relationship?" I had to explain to them that we were both men and no one had a specific role.  But thats not always the case.  Whether we want to or not we often mold our relationships to into molds created by the straight relationships we've seen.  Sometimes based off who is dominant and who is submissive,

New Study Shows 92% of Gay Men Want Marriage or Monogamous Relationship

Its been a long running stereotype that gay men are promiscuous but a new study finds they are just the opposite.

It turns out that polyamory and open relationships are not the dream, it’s monogamy.

Researchers have found surprising new relationship trends among gay men aged 18 to 39.

Lanz Lowen and Blake Spears, a non-monogamous couple for 36 years, looked into the experience of other same-sex couples.

The pair says: ‘There wasn’t any roadmap and we assumed long-term couples might offer valuable perspectives and hard-earned lessons.’

You Deserve Someone Who Chooses You, No Matter What

Often times we doubt our self worth, but thats the worse thing you can do to yourself.  When you know what you are worth there are certain things you won't accept.  When you reach that threshold, you'll know you deserve somoen that chooses you no matter what.

7 Ways You Might Be Self Sabotaging Your Relationship

Maybe you don't even realize why, but you're suddenly cranky with your partner all the time. Or perhaps you had been really looking forward to the future together, but you're suddenly making excuses to push them away.

Many of us are guilty of self-sabotaging our relationships in this way.

How Long Should You Wait To Have Sex In A Relationship

How long should you wait to have sex? Nearly 50 percent of couples in a new survey reported holding out one week to a month before heading to bed with their partners.

What’s more, 21 percent of the couples waited up to two months and 10 percent waited up to half a year to have sex, according to the survey of 1,000 Americans and Europeans. Only 18 percent of those surveyed reported waiting less than a week to have sex.

That first time matters because sex is an incredibly vulnerable act, says relationship therapist Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D.

You Date At The Level Of Your Self Esteem


If you knew better you'd do better, and if you felt better you'd date better.  We date at the level of our self-esteem. Your relationship is a direct reflection of your own self-love and self-worth.

A lot of TDL Seekers have written in saying that they are in a relationship (dating, marriage, etc.) with someone who they really are into, but they are not getting their needs met. They keep asking me how they have to change to keep the relationship going.


7 Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make

Straight, Gay, LGBT We all want to have a great relationship but some of us just don’t know how to keep one. Here are some common mistakes Gay men make in relationships.

When and How To End A Toxic Friendship

Friendships are one of the most rewarding and important parts of life. But unfortunately, there are times when a bond we create with another person slowly begins to deteriorate and a certain friendship stops bringing emotional reward and joy. Quite simply, spending time with this person begins to feel as if it's doing more harm than good.

Out Rapper Le1f Shares Racist Messages He Received On Grindr

Shocker!  Another racist using Grindr!  Grindr seems like the go to app for racists and men of color who want to be abused by them.  Grindr also seems like the go to app for men of color who only go after white guys but thats another post. 

At any rate this is sad and shouldn't happen to anyone no matter who you want to date. 

This is The Most Hype We've Ever Seen People At A Gay Wedding

If my friends don't celebrate for me like this when I finally jump the broom then they are not really my friends.  I want all of this.  I want stiletto heels, I want people making it rain on my bridesmaids, I want trap music playing as they walk down the aisle.  In all seriousness though they looked like they had a great time.  Congrats to the couple!